The Waiting City REVIEW
All marriages hit dark ice sometimes. One hopes and prays that they will pull out. In this film, Fiona and Ben, an Australian couple traveling to India to adopt a child face a series of challenges to their relationship that often accompany phase transitions in a family’s evolution. There are a lot of small things that go into making marriage work and thus there are a lot of things that can go wrong, particularly when a significant restructuring is in the works. This couple seems to know that they have been good together but, will they still be with new responsibilities? Fiona brings her work with her to India and Ben sometimes resents her distracted attention. Ben runs into an old “acquaintance” who seems to reflect his more laid back style and one senses the seed of jealousy planted. Both are dealing with the stress of dislocation and the insecurity of not knowing if they will make good parents. We begin to feel problems of money, problems of physical intimacy, problems of personality, problems of childrearing, problems of health, problems of spirituality, problems of trust.
As they contemplate taking on the work of childrearing, they have to recalculate their trust in one another. IN many ways, they are changing and they must learn who their changed partner is as they themselves are changing.
It is not easy.
But how would I know?
Question for Comment: Have you ever had to re-calculate whether or not a relationship that worked would still work after one or both of you changed in some significant way? Or your life did?