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06/23/2013

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Ghedin

This is a great essay. Thanks for writing. The Cather quote quote about Homer and Tolstoy was interesting. In her day, "animal instinct" and "savage" were generally seen as masculine and the feminine would be the "civilizing" and passion controlling side. If femininity meant being the force of the genteel against the savage, no wonder there were so many rules and expectations for women. It was all about the boundaries. Cather wanted to define herself as a new mixture of masculine and feminine. Good idea, and clearly easier to implement as a pioneer in a place of less defined boundaries and rules yet to be written. But what I love about Cather is that I think she may have started to ask some really good questions. Not only how do we redefine womanhood with a combo of masculine and feminine attributes, But "hey, let's challenge the labeling of these attributes!" Put "woman as civilizing force" on hold. What is the animal instinct/primitive savegeness of womanhood?
Savage grace. Passionate community. Elemental compassion. It's fun to think about. Society has started to give up trying to codify femininity. That's great as long as we can make femininity more than the things that civilize the masculine.
I don't need to leave my life to find it...I need to build where I'm at. With what I am.
Mass media has no idea how to define masculinity or femininity. All we get now are stylized archetypes and catchy memes. I guess it's a good time to be original. Or to try if that moves you. I'm not an original. It's more interesting to me to try to connect with the essential me in the context of my relationships and my community.

Philip Crossman

"Cather wanted to define herself as a new mixture of masculine and feminine. Good idea, and clearly easier to implement as a pioneer in a place of less defined boundaries and rules yet to be written."

I find that I don't have time to develop "my feminine side" without loosing some of the masculine traits that I am "supposed to have." Someday, I swear to myself, I am going to learn more about cars, plumbing, and the stock market but I can't seem to give up reading romance novels to do it. Grin.

Thanks for sharing that "essential you" R.

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