The New Americans REVIEW and a Christmas Sermon
In the documentary, The New Americans, we are given the opportunity to follow a half dozen families through their journey to America and through their attempts to adjust themselves to their new lives “in Babylon.” We get a chance to feel the forces that compel them to leave their homes (in Mexico, the Dominican Republic, Nigeria, Ramallah in the West Bank, and India). You get a chance to see how people’s relationships with their parents, their spouses, their children, and themselves are radically altered. Living in Vermont, I do not get to meet these sorts of people very often and so their stories are particularly riveting to me (they would have to be as the documentary is about eight hours long). As it is Christmas and as we enter a period when the issue of immigration will be in the news a lot, the documentary got me to reflecting about the lives of refugees. And about how the Christmas story itself is about a family of refugees.
“When they had gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream. “Get up,” he said, “take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt. Stay there until I tell you, for Herod is going to search for the child to kill him.” So he got up, took the child and his mother during the night and left for Egypt, where he stayed until the death of Herod.”
Not too many people remember that Jesus was once a refugee – a person who was perhaps barely welcomed in another country when his life was threatened in his own homeland. When I look at my own parentage, it takes years of scrolling to get to the parts when we could be called “refugees.” All 1400 some odd people in my genealogy database seem to have ancestors that arrived in Massachusetts Bay sometime before 1650, and though an argument could be made that almost all of those first American ancestors were refugees (most of them unwelcome or uneeded in England) they quickly stopped longing to return. On my maternal side, the Hurlbut family it seems moved up onto the Canadian border during the Revolutionary War because they were Tories and planned to come back and reclaim their property when the British won the war (something, you may have learned in a high school history class that did not ever happen.) But these connections to the life of a refugee are now quite distant for me.
The word refugee comes from a French word, refugié, the noun form of the act of seeking protection and safety. It was apparently first applied to the Protestant French Huguenots who had to flee the persecution of King Louis XIV when he revoked the Edict of Nantes in 1685. That French word came from the Latin word fugere “to flee.” We can have no qualms referring to Jesus and his family in Egypt as refugees because that is exactly what they were doing there: fleeing. I suspect that I could live in England today if I really wanted to and for that reason, I think it is fair to say that the Crossmans of Rutland County are not refugees any more. But just as I have often said that there are many ways to be poor (memory poor, relationship poor, meaning poor, health poor, or free-time poor for instance), there are several different ways to become and to be a refugee. One does not have to be driven out of their country and made to feel unwelcome to feel oneself “displaced.”
So, how does a person who still lives in the same county as their Revolutionary War ancestors become a refugee? How can it be that someone who owns a home ten times the size of Thoreau’s cabin on Walden Pond feels like a refugee? Perhaps it is because the word refugee speaks of a person who must give up a place of comfort to go looking for another and that so long as they do not find that place, they are a refugee. Perhaps we are all refugees in some sense if we want to look deep in our hearts.
Dépaysement is one of those words that doesn't have a direct English translation. It's a French word whose quick definition is “disorientation”, but the more elegant definition sounds something like this: “The unsteady feeling you get when you are away from your home country.” Robert Frost illustrates it in his poem, The Woodpile when he talks about getting lost in a swamp.
Out walking in the frozen swamp one gray day,
I paused and said, 'I will turn back from here.
No, I will go on farther—and we shall see.'
The hard snow held me, save where now and then
One foot went through. The view was all in lines
Straight up and down of tall slim trees
Too much alike to mark or name a place by
So as to say for certain I was here
Or somewhere else: I was just far from home.
Perhaps there are ways that we have all felt that at some point.
We can, for example, be refugees from a health and vigor we once had. Ailments, diseases, aging, arthritis, heart conditions, diabetes, eye-strain, injuries, stress-conditions, cancer, back-problems, hip replacements, memory loss, obesity, hearing loss, lymes disease, or just plain weariness can have us feeling like refuges within our own bodies driven out of the physical beings that we once were. We may not leave youthful health for fear of anything but we must adjust ourselves to our new circumstances as best we can eventually. “Remember your creator in the days of your youth before the days of trouble come …” says the author of Ecclesiastes just before he begins to detail all the ways that your body is likely to start falling apart.
Similarly, we can be refugees from the jobs that we once had and loved. Sometimes this happens because entire industries are exported to other places in the world. Sometimes this happens because a thinking job we once had is now being done by a computer or because the internet allows it to be done in some distant central location. Sometimes we get a new boss that destroys the lovely workplace that we grew accustomed to during the reign of a competent one. Sometimes, we are promoted to jobs that we need for financial reasons but that we do not feel well suited for or fulfilled by. Sometimes, the clients change and we no longer feel the satisfaction of relationships that former clients provided. Now, we are asked simply to provide services to nameless people over phones or at the other end of conveyer belts. Sometimes the markets no longer want what we used to sell or serve. Sometimes, competition intrudes like an invasive species and we watch as some Home Depot puts our hardware store out of business. In my own field of teaching, one sees more and more the expansion of a model of adjunct faculty and part-time teachers crowding out the field and reducing wages. In the modern world of work, it is entirely possible to go to bed a CFO and wake up a fry cook in a tattertot assembly line. You can feel like screw driver being used for a hammer or a hammer used for a screw driver, or worse, either one not being used for anything – or used but not paid.
I would add a third way that we can become refugees while remaining in our ancestral lands. We can be refugees from relationships that we once had. Statistically, were are just as likely to be disconnected from the marital partners that we start adult life with as to remain with them. In a world of so many influences, it is not easy to retain connection to a person who is constantly changing while we are constantly changing. And where those disconnections take place, whether they be formalized by divorce or not, we can be separated in either spirit or body from our very children if we are not careful. Friends can become lost to us when their work transfers them. Siblings can relocate to other states, other countries, other worldviews. We have built a society that kneels at the alter of freedom and mobility and so we must pay. We must sacrifice to that Baal of liberty. I suspect that few of us can say that every person that they at one time loved and were loved by, is as available to them to love and be loved by as they would like today. We all deal with some heartbreak. Some loss. Some endless coping with some form of empty nestism. I recently heard of a company that grants employees time to deal with romantic loss. Depending on your age, you may claim one, two, or at maximum, three days to recover from being dumped. Three days. Right. Sometimes the recovery process from these sorts of losses can be measured in decades or lifetimes. We have all been shoved out of some attachment that has never healed and doesn’t want to heal.
Fourthly, we can be refugees from our own dreams. Can it not be said that we all had a dream at one point in time in our lives – a dream that remains unfulfilled and is now all but unfulfillable? Can we not all say with sincerity “I so wanted to be …” “I so wanted to have …” “I so wanted to go …”? Can we not all look into our souls and see that the things that we once wanted and dreamed about have been supplanted by other things that we feel we must want and dream about. Where we once worked towards a goal that inspired us, we now must work towards a goal that pays off some debt? Or that helps our child maintain their dream, or that simply allows us to remain “responsible”? And perhaps we were frightened away from our dream – frightened by the boogieman of affordability – or the ogre of bankruptcy. I am reminded of the film Billy Elliot where young Billy aspires to be a dancer. He is asked by the admissions committee evaluating his application to dance school how he feels when he dances and thinking for a moment, he says, “It feels like electricity.” When we think about our dreams and when we get to work towards them, isn’t that the feeling we have? And is it not ever so sad when the things that we must dream about are not those things? Are we not dream refugees displaced into Egypt from our deepest longings at times? Fortunate are those who are not.
Perhaps I will conclude this litany with a reminder that some of us can even become refugees from a faith that we once held. “Satan has desired to sift you like wheat,” Jesus said to his disciple Peter, referring to the way that the fiery trial he was about to undergo would splinter his faith and drive a wedge between himself and his convictions. This faith can be represented by many different fundamental beliefs that we might once have enjoyed - a belief in a God who would protect us from all harm or who would grant us all desires – a faith in a God who would maintain a system of visible justice – a faith in a God who loved us too much to allow us to feel loss or pain where we were most vulnerable. This faith that we can get driven from may simply be a faith in people. There is a word that can be used to describe someone who has lost the ability to trust people because of the infidelity of previous confidants: pistsanthrophobia. Life experiences can shove us out of our optimism and make us doubt that anyone who makes a promise intends to keep it. We can become refugees from optimism, living in a state of cynicism, forced out by a series of experiences whereby our trust is abused and our innocence is coined into profit. We can indeed come to a place where we no longer even trust ourselves to know who is trustworthy.
“By the rivers of Babylon we sat and wept when we remembered Zion,” The refugee Psalmist cries in Psalm 137. There, he bemoans, his enemies asked him to act as though he was not a refugee. They ask him or her to sing songs of the old country as though she had not been banished from it. You want to know what is more painful than loss? Experiencing loss and being asked to pretend that you don’t. That is what is more painful than loss. Note well how this writer of this Psalm responds to this request that he minimize the pain of his new status as a refugee. He responds with renewed attachment … and with anger towards those he believes to be responsible for his loss.
How can we sing the songs of the Lord
while in a foreign land?
If I forget you, Jerusalem,
may my right hand forget its skill.
May my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth
if I do not remember you,
if I do not consider Jerusalem
my highest joy.
Remember, Lord, what the Edomites did
on the day Jerusalem fell.
“Tear it down,” they cried,
“tear it down to its foundations!”
Daughter Babylon, doomed to destruction,
happy is the one who repays you
according to what you have done to us.
Happy is the one who seizes your infants
and dashes them against the rocks.
This passage reminds us of just how difficult life as a refugee can be. It may require us to learn new languages, build new support systems, acquire new skills, overcome prejudices, all while fighting a constant rear guard action against bitterness and anger and what I would call “toxic nostalgia” – the unbreakable addiction to what was and the burning resentment against those we deem responsible for our displacement. The former spouse. The former boss. The abusive parent. The ancestral home in Bethlehem.
Just outside of the town of Bethlehem lies a huge fortress that King Herod had built to defend himself against insurrections. One should understand that many of those who wished for Jesus to lead a military insurrection against Rome and its surrogates could easily have seen the violent taking of Herodium as the first act of the rebellion. Who better to have led that charge than one who had been driven from his birthplace as an infant? Who would not have wanted to have simply used the power granted them to retake their home? To finally and forever put a stake in the heart of their refugee status.
And yet it is sobering to consider that Jesus’ answer to losing his home was not to “take it back” but to make all that was not home, home to everyone. Maybe that is the secret for a world so full of refugees. Maybe it is not to aim to get home so much as to aim to make the world home such that none of us are refugees anymore.
Anyway, if I were still a pastor, that might have been my Christmas Sermon this year.
To any and all who read this blog, I wish you a year of feeling right at home where you are.
Question for Comment: How could someone help you stop feeling like a refugee? How could you help someone else in the same respect?
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